From the readings, it’s easy to tell that combining work, life, and family can be extremely difficult in the American work sphere. Can one have a family, spend time with the family, enjoy time for one’s own activities, and move up the ranks at his or her workplace? It seems all too often that life comes down to an unsolvable puzzle.
I think it’s nearly impossible, and very few people are able, to “have it all.” I believe it’s a combination of personal values and corporate practices. Regardless of the company they work for, may individuals feel the need to back scale back their work life in order to spend time with, or start, a family. There have been individuals who worked for the government, MongoDB, and the people I know from the company I work for that had to take time off for family reasons. I don’t think it necessarily matters where one works, but if one’s priorities are such that family comes first, then I think that is often what he or she chooses.
I think this trend is telling. If people keep pulling away from work, then this means they think something needs to change in order to create a more fulfilling life. This in itself is not bad and doesn’t mean one can’t have success in the workplace (provided they come back to the workplace or continue to work but with fewer hours), but combined with the manner with which many corporations operate, means that these individuals are often discounted for workplace advancement. These individuals may not be able to rise up to the fulfilling position they desire because family is such an integral part of their lives. Amazon is not representative of all companies, but are not alone. If they dock their employees leaving work involuntarily for things such as cancer, then it’s easy to see them viewing voluntary leave for things such as raising a family as not being committed to the workplace. To compound the issue, Amazon doesn’t offer any paid paternal leave. Again, not all companies are like this, but it’s easy to see why preference may go toward those who spend more time at the workplace. They may seem more committed, and may be offered the promotions that those with other commitments may not enjoy. This cycle just seems to continue.
The best solution seems to be that companies should recognize that their employees can not always give their hearts and souls to the company. Real life is full of commitments, work being one of them, but it should be noted that the health of oneself or one’s children should come before the profit of a company. If an employee needs to take care of his or her children or his or her own life, the employee should be given the opportunity to do so, free of judgement.
After saying all this, I feel companies are not obliged to promote individuals while recognizing all out-of-work situations. Employees who are able to work more, perhaps are a bit more deserving of promotions because of the time they can commit to the company. However, I do not believe employees should lose their jobs just because, for a period of time, they must scale back their work a bit. As long as they are being productive and “earning their keep” so to speak, I believe they should not be punished. Like I said before, companies should recognize that work is not the only priority in people’s lives.
I’m not sure how I’ll be able to maintain the work-life balance I desire. First of all, I don’t know what this balance is yet. I don’t have my own family to think about and (luckily) am free of health issues. One day, I’m sure I’ll have all of these things to worry about and I think I’ll have to make some tough choices then. For now, I’ve chosen a company that allows me some flexibility in my work and I hope that for the first few years out of college that is enough.